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Spotting Communication Red Flags in Relationships — A Guide Inspired by Gottman’s Research
Poor communication is one of the most common reasons couples seek therapy. In this article, we explore the key "red flags" in communication, based on renowned psychologist Dr. John Gottman’s research, including the Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse. We’ll also share how couples therapy can help address these patterns and build stronger, healthier relationships. If you’re seeking couples therapy in Markham or Vaughan, our team at Your Story Counselling is here to help.
Judy Lui
Aug 185 min read
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What Is Attachment Theory & Therapy? Understanding Your Emotional Bonds and How Healing Happens
Attachment theory explains how our early relationships shape the way we connect with others as adults. Whether you struggle with trust, intimacy, or emotional regulation, understanding your attachment style can offer powerful insights. Therapy focused on attachment helps heal relational wounds and build healthier connections. At Your Story Counselling, we offer compassionate, trauma-informed therapy to support your unique attachment journey.
Judy Lui
Jul 284 min read
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Your Story Counselling Recognized Nationally for Excellence in Inclusive Mental Health Care
Your Story Counselling, a trauma-informed and culturally responsive psychotherapy clinic serving York Region and beyond, has been recognized on the national stage. Named a finalist in the 2024 RBC Canadian Women Entrepreneur Awards under the Micro-Business category, the clinic’s work in building accessible, affirming, and anti-oppressive mental health care is gaining long-overdue recognition. Learn how Your Story Counselling is changing how therapy is delivered—one story at a
Judy Lui
Jul 214 min read
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Should I See a Therapist Online or In-Office? Understanding What’s Right for You
Not sure whether to book an in-person or online therapy session? You're not alone. The choice between virtual and in-office therapy depends on your comfort, access, and clinical needs. This article breaks down the benefits of each approach—and explains why choosing a local clinic like Your Story Counselling means you don’t have to choose just one.
Judy Lui
Jul 144 min read
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The Three Types of Sex: Understanding Intimacy, Connection, & Pleasure
Sex isn’t just about physical connection—with our bodies, partners, or identity, it's layered. This updated guide explores three types of sex—relational, passionate, and solo/experiential—to help you understand your own needs and patterns. Learn how to foster intimacy, keep excitement alive, and feel good in your own skin. Therapy-trained insights included.
Judy Lui
Jul 94 min read
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How to Find LGBTQ+ Affirming Therapists in York Region
Finding an LGBTQ+ affirming therapist in York Region is essential for members of the 2SLGBTQIA+ community seeking mental health care that is safe, inclusive, and culturally competent. This guide highlights how to find affirming clinicians, the values of Your Story Counselling’s anti-oppressive stance, and where to find community support through organizations like Rainbow Health Ontario, ACAS, AQUA, and Pflag York Region.
Judy Lui
Jul 74 min read
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ADHD in Relationships: When a Third Partner Is Invisible—but Powerful
When you're in a relationship, you're not just navigating the needs, emotions, and communication styles of two people—sometimes, there's a third invisible influence in the mix: ADHD.
Whether diagnosed or not, ADHD can play a powerful and often misunderstood role in intimate relationships. And when one or both partners are affected, it can feel like ADHD has pulled up a chair at the table, making itself part of every conversation, conflict, and connection.
Judy Lui
May 195 min read
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Moving in: How to grow intimacy when living together
"Moving in? Keep the spark alive by communicating openly, balancing personal space, and adding romance to daily routines for a strong bond."
Judy Lui
Nov 13, 20245 min read
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Understanding the Impact of Trauma on Sexual Intimacy and Identity
Discover how trauma can deeply affect sexual intimacy and identity. Learn how therapy can help individuals and couples heal and build health
Judy Lui
Sep 11, 20246 min read
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Navigating Relationship Storms: Identifying and Tackling Communication Red Flags - Insights from John Gottman
Learn about Gottman therapy's Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse and its antidotes in this article!
Judy Lui
Feb 7, 20247 min read
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Identifying Relationship Red Flags: A Guide to the Four Horsemen of Communication
This article aims to help you navigate the world of relationship red flags by delving into Dr. John Gottman's Four Horsemen of the Apocalyps
Judy Lui
Oct 30, 20236 min read
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Strengthening Love: The Gottman Method for Everyday Relationships
In this article, we will explore the main principles of the Gottman Method and discuss its application for everyday relationship use.
Judy Lui
Oct 6, 20236 min read
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Couples counseling and Addiction, everything you need to know
Couples counselling is a kind of treatment in which both spouses meet with the same therapist together for psychotherapy. Couples...
Judy Lui
Dec 1, 20215 min read
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